1 December 2013 – 29 October 2017 R.I.P our marriage. When we walked down the aisle with the love of our life, trusting that he will be the man you can trust and rely on the rest of your life, forming a family with him, when you thought two has become one… who will ever predict the marriage will end up in a divorce one day, so soon some more.
We are two separate individuals. He became someone I am sceptical about, no more trust, not even friendship is left. What's left is our baby that I can never forget that he has ever asked me to consider aborting. What's left is he is the father to my daughter whom we have conceived thru IVF. And this person just contributed his sperm to fertilise my egg. This person not only doesn't do his duty as a father-to-be when I am pregnant, yet made me go thru hell and risk of losing my precious girl.
29 October 2017, we FINALLY signed the deed of separation. He asked a friend to be his witness, I asked my uncle. This kind of setting is naturally awkward yeah? If you sign in front of the lawyer at the lawyer firm, you can just go there, read the deed once again, sign and sayonara… But you know, in front of the witnesses we have to do some small talks, the difficult part. Who ask him not want to engage a lawyer to minimise this awkwardness?
Luckily my uncle is a man with wisdom. He broke the ice by talking casually as he can tell he must be intimidated as I asked someone his senior to be my witness.
My uncle said he can tell from his facial expression that he is under a lot of stress and he looked defensive towards him. To deal with someone like this, he needs to use the soft approach, in case he changed his mind the last minute and refused to sign.
So my uncle started talking about his job, the industry is not doing well etc… then stock markets that he friend was very into, so it ended up my uncle talked to his friend the bulk of the time while we both listened and contributed a little.
When the time was right and the atmosphere wasn't too uptight, I took out the deed and asked him to read thru one more time and if everything's okay, sign on every page and witnesses to sign on the last page. We did, the witness signed and yeah, done.
Actually before my uncle signed, he said sthg to cool us down. "两个人在一起性格不合，两个人都没错，分开也不一定是坏事。但有什么事要好好谈，还来好散” He didn't say the actual problem of our marriage since his friend was there. But I guess its nice to hear some words of wisdom from a fatherly figure before we signed on the dotted line.
After tt they continued chatting for a bit before we call it a day. As we were leaving, my uncle patted on his shoulder and told him sthg that I couldn't catch, but i believe its sthg to make him think.
After signing i was relieved as i can at least not meet him till the day I pop, but at the same time… there are a lot of flash backs. The wedding… the honeymoon… the aussie trip, moving into our new house. It isn't easy, but i know for sure that I am a step near to freedom and happiness! 😊
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